Oooookay, so I’m back at my laptop click-clacking at the keyboard for another blog post. 💻 Did my little blogging fam notice my time out? Well, the whole thing started out with the shock-ING (or is it SHOCK-ing?) number of likes I got for this post.
But all that’ll be discussed later on. Let the wrap-up begin…
Um, I guess for this month I made… one post? Here it is in case you missed out on it:
I felt really bad when, after publishing this post, I headed over to WP to check and only saw one like. One like.
I was like: I have 33 followers, why should a post, ANY post of mine have just ONE like?!
I felt really bad. I felt like I’m just wasting my time and mobile data blogging. I started recalling the fact that my posts don’t even get comments.
A simple ‘Nice post, Vanessa’ will be much appreciated.
HONESTLY SPEAKING TO WHOEVER READS THE ARTICLES I WRITE ON THIS BLOG, I’M FEELING VERY DISCOURAGED. I’M NOT SAYING YOU SHOULD ‘LIKE’ POSTS YOU DON’T REALLY LIKE, BUT FOR THOSE YOU DO REALLY LIKE, YOU CAN ALSO DO WELL BY LEAVING ME A COMMENT TELLING ME HOW MUCH YOU DID LIKE THEM.
To whom it may concern.
So, it was that feeling and my second term exams / WAEC mock exams (also being my last official exams in secondary school 😭) that kept me from WP and from blogging for about three weeks.
And I believe I’ll also go on another timeout, ‘cause JAMB mock exams start on April 9th soooo, yeah. And I also have to start preparing my things for my two-and-a-half months stay in boarding school for my WAEC exams.
Yeah, you hrrd right: I’ll be going to boarding school for my senior school exams! 🚶🏿♀️ 🧳🛏 It’s just a little heads up.
But when I checked out WP on April 1st, the day we finished our exams, I saw some really cheery comments some bloggers that found my blog during my break left me. They cheered me up and encouraged me in the measure they could. 🌻☀🌞
The amazing people are 🧡:
Elisha – I really would have followed you, but I don’t really follow story or writing blogs, because I lose interest in them after a while. So, to keep things honest, I didn’t.
Justjubi – When I followed their link, I found the person’s site had been deleted, soooo no link.
At last, I found a new blogger this month. And shii izz:
And at last’s last, I gave my blog a makeover 🎨💄🎀 – a rather small one, actually. I just tweaked up things like colours and added some new… stuff. I wanted to wait till my blog’s 1-year anniversary to change my blog’s appearance, but that’ll be by November, and that’s too long a wait. 😑 So head over to my site if you’re viewing this in the Reader, and please tell me what you think of it in the comments!
Sorry this segment turned out to be so long.
My Spiritual Life.
In this part of my life last month, I was fairly neutral. Falling and getting up, falling and getting up. I believe it was an improvement when compared to last month.
A 4/10, I believe.
I’m beginning to see, as I grow and get into new situations that being godly isn’t as easy as it used to be when I was younger. It takes constant effort, when you fail even when after said you’d try to never fail that badly again, to not give up on yourself. It takes bravery to talk to God when you’re going through hurt, because most times we think we can think out the pain-killer ourselves… but we can’t.
This month, after going to church on Sundays, I would feel really motivated to write a You and God post, but when I do get time to write it, I feel inadequate, like an impostor, like I’m not worthy, like a hypocrite that says one thing and does another. I know we are made worthy by God’s grace, but I had always decided to wait till I was back firmly on my feet, so that the articles I wrote would not condemn me.
But as I write this now, I realise that the articles I write should not condemn me. Rather, they should caution me. Caution me to live as I preach, reminding me that I have an audience that grabs on to the words I write concerning Christian living. So, guys, get ready for You and God articles in April.
My Personal Life.
My personal life was as well neutral, I guess. With my boyfriend, I’ve learnt some more lessons about trusting him: I can. Notwithstanding the palaver of him looking for trouble, and me giving him trouble of my own, February was blissful for us, actually. 💕
The other part of my personal life concerns my family, my friends and classmates. It’s safe to say I bore my burdens well this month, and didn’t have any serious emotional breakdowns.
Again, I realised this month that I have an amazing friend who has and (hopefully) will always have my back.
And the person I used to call my close friend showed me that he was never really even an acquaintance, after all these years.😥
I guess the only part of my life that I actively worked at this month was my school life. This is the first time in my life that my exam scores ACTUALLY determine my future.
Maybe I didn’t put that right.
I just mean that not reaching the required cut-off mark for my dream university is going to be a big blow to me, y’know. So I’m all jittery, trying my best to study, take away distractions, and am constantly scolding myself when I fail to reach a goal.
I’m. Just. Tryna. Be. Focused. And. Serious. And. All.
Wish me luck with exams, guys!
And I promise to formally inform you (for all who care) …
*harsh… but true*
… when I’ll be going on my break for my JAMB mock exams and when I’ll be going to boarding school.
Still waiting for my WAEC mock exam results…
So that’s my March recap. I really loved reading Evin’s March wrap-up. She tagged it: a summary of march ‘2022 🍃‘cause she didn’t want to use the usual ‘… wrap-up’ format. I really love her posts. She’s not posting so frequently nowadays, but her writing style remains the same: she’s cool, mature and artistic. And also my biggest encouragement to keep on blogging.
I really want to hear what you think of myblog adjustments, and of the post in general! So please leave your comments, readers!
Thanks for reading.
P.S Don’t you just uh-dore this pic? It’s the featured image I made myself for my February Wrap-Up, and I can’t stop loving it! 😍
This post is inspired by a personal, present experience of mine, and that’s why I said: “I’ve been there too, hun.”
There was a time I was overwhelmed, engulfed with intimidation. It happened that I began to care so much about what people thought of me that I was unable to focus on making my own decisions concerning the things I wanted in my life that would make me happy.
In the society live in, there are stereotypes about certain things. Stereotypes about boy-girl relationships, stereotypes about the things teens should and should not do, stereotypes about a lot of things, actually. And many of these stereotypes are – I daresay – old fashioned.
Nowadays, flexibility has been introduced into the framework of society. Gone are the days when there was only ‘one way of doing things: the right way.’ But in my society, modernity, flexibility and change are considered ‘bad’ by a majority.
So, the entire feelings of intimidation and inferiority came up when I just started dating. At that time, I had just been elected as the Senior Prefect of my school, ‘cause I was all-round star student + goody-two-shoes. 😊 So, everyone was surprised when rumors began going around that I had a boyfriend. 🤯
I don’t know what it’s like in other countries or societies, but in the average Nigerian society, a teenage girl who has a boyfriend automatically becomes (or is automatically tagged as) a bad girl.
I won’t lie, this is true 90% of the time. This is true because a majority of the boys who date teen girls in my society only want to corrupt them, use them and then dump them. 😭 And I believe it is because of this reason that teenage girls are advised not to date, because adults know that 99% – or, okay – 95% of teenage or young-adult boys cannot commit to a relationship.
So, back to the point: It was because of the general belief about teenage relationships that I had begun to be tagged as ‘one of them’, ‘a bad girl’.
And all the tagging got to me. It made me feel inferior and made it easy for me to be intimidated by the small successes of my peers in comparison to my own.
But what they – and even I – didn’t understand back then was that my case was different. My relationship was – is – different. I only began to realise that when the negative feelings were at their peak. My grades were dropping, and a lot in my life was going the wrong way. My boyfriend noticed this and talked to me about it. He actually talked to me a lot about it, but one conversation of ours really stood out to me. He told me to do whatever would make me happy, whatever I knew wouldn’t put pressure on me, whatever I knew would be good for me; whatever I decide, he would be fine.
It took me an entire half term (or more) and series of mental, emotional and academic breakdowns for me to come to the conclusion that I wanted my boyfriend in my life, that he was – and is still – beneficial to me… and makes me really happy. 🥰 I told myself that I don’t care about what people think of me, because people always talk; and many times, the things they talk about, the things they say are wrong end up being right in the end.
In fact, I wrote an entire Facebook post inspired by that experience. Here’s a cropped pic of the most important parts:
But that’s not the point.
The point – the point in this whole narration of mine – is that you should not care about what is going on around you, what people think of you, when deciding on the things that you believe are important in your life. People will always talk, it’s their job to do that, hun. All you have to do is to filter out the positive, and eschew the negative. (small digression: This is actually what I think if when I hear the word ‘eschew’: 🤧)
Be confident in what you are doing, the path you are pursuing, as long as it makes you happy and IT IS GOOD. Because the truth of the matter is, as I said in my Facebook post, if you keep trying to please everyone, you will end up living your life for them, which is kind of like not living any life at all. The most important thing is to do whatever will make you happy that you believe is right, no matter what others say, and you’ll be fine.
But another thing to note is that you shouldn’t try to change what is ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ just to suit your own lifestyle, actions or choices. That’s why it’s important to sit down and ask yourself what you believe is ‘right’ and ‘wrong’, so that you can make decisions with assurance and certainty.
And that’s that.
Just a note to teens in relationships:
in my view, it’s not wrong to date as a teenager, just be sure you and your bf or gf are serious about the relationship and can see a future together.
Also make sure that you as a person are able to balance the different aspects of your life. A relationship can take up a lot of one’s mind – I speak from experience. But you should be able to allocate time for your relationship matters, as well as for other parts of your life, so you won’t get weighed-down, distracted and imbalanced. (As I once was).
*And a way to be sure you’re with the right person is to see how he or she responds when you tell them that, for example, you may be able to make it to a date or to meet up because you have to study or have some other engagement. A sensible person won’t pressure you to forfeit the other thing you have to do, because they’d know the importance of balance and priorities. But don’t overdo things. A relationship requires time and considerable effort to survive, and you must put in these factors.
I’m also against pre-marital or (at least) pre-mature sex. Don’t have sex as a teen; at least wait till you both are adults, when if pregnancy mistakenly occurs, you both will be mature and stable enough to handle it together.
So, hun, reader, don’t be intimidated by the words or actions of people. It must not always be concerning moral matters; it could also concern academics or in your workplace. Don’t be intimidated when someone is always termed as a ‘serious student’ or a ‘star student’ at the expense of others, don’t let it make you feel inferior. Don’t feel intimidated when someone supposedly does things better than everyone else; people are different, and as a result are made for different purposes. Find your thing and be the best at it.
That’s V’s take on inferiority and intimidation. Let’s keep the conversation going. Have you ever felt intimidated or inferior? How did you overcome those feelings? Did this post help boost your confidence? I really do want to hear from you, so drop me a comment below.👇🏿
As the tittle reveals, this is my wrap-up post for the month of February (AKA the month of looooove💕)!
In the absence of further preambles, here is the run-down of my Feh-bu-ah-ree (as a majority say in Nigeria – including me):
I believe that, all things being fair, I was active in the blogging fam this month. This month, my followers count moved up to 29 followers.
And some other ✨exciting news:✨this month, I got nominated for my first blogger tag/award! The tag was named The Remarkable Blogger Tag. It was started by Selina of The Never-Ending Writes. If you’d like to check out the post, click here
Uuuuummm, I don’t think I found any new blogs this month – no, wait. Yes, I did.
I actually found two new blogs this month. They are:
Wow. That’s a loooot of posts. Probably the most I’ve ever posted in a whole month. February did me good on this side, I guess.👏🏿
This month, my spirituality was floaty. It felt like I was just going with the motions. I still prayed and talked to God, but it didn’t really feel concrete and heartfelt – it felt like it was done out of habit. 😥
And I believe this ‘down-ness’ was the reason why I didn’t write any post in the You and God category of Ọlaedo this month.😢
I really hate it that I’m down more often than I’m up. I fall a lot. But y’know what they say: when you fall, you rise up again; the downfall of a man is not the end of his life.
So, I’m optimistic that I’ll be better in my spirituality in March. Having already begun making plans and setting goals (with God’s help), I believe March will be better.
There isn’t really much to say here for this month. Most of my personal life was influenced by my School Life. Aside from (trying) to read for my exams, I’m still learning a lot about trust, what it means to care about those important to you before yourself, and keeping my mouth under control.
I mean, it’s not like I’m talkative or anything, but it’s just that I need to learn to mind the way I talk. I’m a victim of this because I normally don’t talk much, so I feel like if I have to censor out even the handful I say, then I’m ‘letting other people determine my words’. And this just makes me feel like I’m being controlled.
But then I remember some verses from Proverbs:
I’m still learning a lot of things on the Personal side, but I believe I’m making progress. And I’m thankful that I have amazing people in my life who will always tell me the truth and point me to the right thing.
I guess it’s okay to say that I’m now officially a JAMBITE. This means that I’m now a candidate of JAMB UTME (Joint Admissions and Matriculations Board Unified Tertiary Matriculation Examination).
Not yet, emojis. Not yet.
*emojis whine and quietly hop back*
The heart of the journey is yet to come. My classmates and I often solve past JAMB and WASSCE (West African Senior Secondary Certificate Examination) questions. WAEC questions are okay, doable. But JAMB questions are hard.
I really need to intensify my study efforts. There’s a classmate of mine who wants to study pharmacy. She’s begun private home lessons and has bought all the books required for the exams. I don’t think I will be able to do private lessons, but I will read – hard.
Many times I think I should drop blogging just till my exams are over (by July). But I worry about how much my blog will suffer.
And then a voice asks me: Your blog and passing your exams, which one is more important?
My exams, I answer
So what do you think you should do?
Prioritize. Make time for them both, according to their levels of importance.
That’s what I’ve resolved to do. Is it okay? Or should I focus entirely on my exams? I’d really love to hear from you in the comments.
So, that’s about it. I hope you enjoyed reading the wrap-up of my February. Please give me your advice on my approach to my exams and blogging. And some study tips will also be very welcome! 😊
But I hate it that no amount of study tips given will ever work until you consistently put them into action.
There’s that 99% action and 1% idea again.
*rolls eyes and huffs*
Anyway, thanks for reading. And thanks again to all my new followers and viewers. But I hugely thank all to my active readers, the peeps who always like my posts, and comment when they can. Your actions are very heartfelt, and I believe my words are making an impact.
It’s been a while since I last wrote in the Teen Talk category of Ọlaedo – the meat and bones of this blog. So here’s something I’ve put together for today:
In today’s post, I stress the importance of asking ourselves, as tweens, teens and even adults, the hard questions.
I believe that everyone frequently comes to that point in their life when they ask themselves: What am I even doing? What am I living for? What gets me up from bed every morning? How am I living my life every day in respect to what I hope to achieve in life?
… and a score of other related questions. Towards the ending of last year, I resolved to make a new list of my priorities from time to time, so as to keep them up-to-date with the changes in my life.
But let me not give away the gist of this post just yet.
It’s important to ask ourselves the hard questions, but it’s even more important to answer them honestly and transparently. I may not be able to think up all the questions we need to ask ourselves, because people and their lives are different. But here are some questions we should ask ourselves from time-to-time:
What do I want to achieve in life?
It’s the same as asking: What do I want out of my life? Everyone has a sum-total dream or goal for their life.
Correction: Everyone should have a laid down purpose for their life.
But it’s sad that many people don’t. Maybe they once did, but now they really don’t know anymore. Maybe they’re just going with the flow of things and seeing where they’ll find themselves.
You might have pledged to become something professionally, or maybe have pledged to do something for society, or have pledged to achieve something you know will make an impact in your generation, no matter the size. But that might have been some time ago.
As we grow, change and get into new environments, we experience challenges in our mentalities, and many times, these challenges prevail and change our mentalities. When such a thing happens, we are to sit down and reason out whether or not the change is positive or negative
As a person, there should be that ultimate dream you wish to achieve. It is important to identify what that is early enough, so that your younger (teen) years can be used to lay the foundation for the work that will begin in the prime of your youth.
But who’s limiting? You can be or do whatever you want to, whenever you want to. In our age and time, there are few limits to success.
The takeaway from this is: Sit down and think of what you want to do with your life. You might have done this before, but if you feel like you have undergone some changes in your mentality and that path doesn’t suit you anymore, it’s okay to make a change.
Just make sure you are happy with your life’s goal.
What actions am I taking every day in order to achieve my life’s goal?
It’s not enough to map out your life’s goal; you should also break that goal down into mini-goals that you achieve every day in respect to the big one.
I know I sound like a motivational book. But that’s the truth.
Take for example: I want to be a software engineer. I realised that I don’t have to wait till I’m in university till I start learning the concepts of programming and how to write code. So, I took up learning to code with lecture videos on different programming languages. I may not be getting the same experience as a person going for physical coding classes, but my endeavour is of benefit to me; I find that, during Computer Science classes in school, I have already learnt many of the things I’m being taught, through my coding tutorial videos.
It’s a step – maybe a small one – to achieving my life’s goal.
Whether professionally or humanitarianly, whatever you want to achieve in life should begin TODAY, no matter how small.
The journey of a thousand miles begins with [today’s] step.
What are my values and principles?
I learned what values are from a book tittled The Power of Self-Confidence by Brian Tracy. From what he explained, I can say that values are pillars which hold all your actions; they are those traits or aspects of your life that you cannot compromise for anything, no matter what.
And of course, if you have values, you have to have them in order of importance.
I’ll explain the next heading.👇🏿
‘Principles’ is kind of like my synonym for values. Principles are like your personal Ten Commandments, or a personal constitution. You do not break the rules of your principles no matter what.
So values are like aspects of your life that you arrange in order of importance and make decisions in respect to how important one aspect is to you over the other. While principles are the rules you’ve laid down for yourself to guide your life.
Values and principles are important because they guide our lives. There is a sense of pride that comes about whenever we act according to them, and this continuous sense of pride should exist in order to keep us believing in ourselves and taking us through every day.
Do I prioritize?
Like I said I would, I’ll explain ‘prioritizing’ here. Prioritizing comes about when you’re making your values list, or when you’re just making a list of your priorities.
I didn’t state this earlier, but, taking an example from my values list, your values list can be something like this:
Continuous best standard education
Going by this list of values, it means that in a time when I’m to choose between my friends and, maybe, continuing my education abroad, I would have to choose my education. It means that if I had to choose between doing something of my will I ‘think’ will make me happy and something of God’s will I ‘believe’ will make me happy, I’ll have to pick what God wants first. Why? Because God never gives us more than we can handle; He teaches us, sometimes, with adversity.
So, back to the point. You just need to get some (I’ll call them) traits that summarize aspects of your life and order them according to importance. These will help you whenever you need to make tough decisions. I never forget my values, and they haven’t changed since I defined them in 2019.
Of course, yours can change if necessary, but make sure that the change is for good, that it will make you a better person as you live by them.
And when you come to priorities, they are the sentence form of values. An excerpt from my latest priorities list is:
Being a better person (personal growth)
My values and self-confidence (personal life)
Usually, your priorities should be a reflection of your values, because your values are – should be – the backbone, the foundation of all your actions.
Prioritization is important at frequent intervals because we, as well as the pattern of our lives, are constantly undergoing change. I advise to make a list of your priorities at least at the beginning of every month. It will help you to take on the month with a sense of control and purposefulness. And if it seems your priorities are still the same, it’s okay to leave them as they are. The most important thing is keeping to them.
And – talking honestly – I may not have perfected the fine art of prioritizing, or even always sticking to my priorities, but I really do try; I try because I believe prioritizing is a good cause to chase after.
Who are my friends?
Who-are-your-friends? What kind of people do you associate with? What do you look for when choosing close friends? Can you tell the difference between fake friends and true friends?
These are the kind of questions you need to ask yourself now.
From my JSS3 (that should be, like, eighth grade in the American school system, I guess), I told myself that my classmates, the people my age I relate most frequently with, were of little benefit to me, because they cared about the wrong things. As a result, I shut myself out of conversations with those of them I knew were of little benefit, and only talked to a few people about non-academics-related things. I did have a classmate who was a close friend, though, but he was only good for talking about career-related, academics or school-related things, and he was also a boy. I could never really talk to him about, y’know… personal stuff.
But it was ironic, though, that my best friend later on was a boy. I made him my best friend still in JSS3. I was drawn to him majorly because of his coding knowledge. I still say this with pride that: he dared me to take up here-and-now coding; meaning, he made me see that I didn’t have to be in university before I could begin writing code. So, our friendship sprang up from the mutual ground of the quest for coding knowledge… and has continued till today – although not as strong as it was back then. 😥
So the point of this whole narration was that you should be brave enough to decide what kind of people will actually benefit you if they come into your life. I’m not saying you should shut every other type of person out – that was a mistake I made back then that I have corrected. All I’m saying is to choose those friends that you will keep close and those that will be far, in order to avoid corruption and/or diversion.
What kind of relationships am I getting into?
I suppose you must have guesstimated (can’t believe this is a word 🤯) what will be contained in this heading.
Yes, at that point in our lives when we will, we will begin to feel for someone, and a relationship might start to bud. Decide early if you’re ready to have a serious relationship, so you don’t go playing with someone’s heart 💔 and wasting their time.
I highly recommend you check out my post, Don’t Settle for Less. After reading it, I know you’ll be convinced of the importance of setting standards for the kind of relationship you wish to have.
Look before you leap. Nowadays, people with true intentions are becoming harder and harder to find. Look well before you pour out your heart and life and time and opportunities at the expense of a person.
As always, I recommend prioritization, and discovering first who you are and what YOU want out of YOUR life, before you begin to lean on someone else.
Am I academics-inclined, skill-inclined or talent-inclined?
Yes. A very important heading to discuss. The failure of most people stems from the fact that they do not know their inclination.
By default, parents want their children to be academics-inclined, and that is why they send us to school. But as the years go by, our true inclinations surface, and it is only the discerning, brave people who realise them and make a shift.
The academics-inclined person dreams of becoming some professional, like a doctor, lawyer, geologist, software engineer, 👧🏿✌🏿 or any profession that involves study and training in order to actualize.
The skill-inclined person does not really focus on academics or study or stuff like that. He only learns the skills he needs for his profession. Such a person could go on to become a baker, a furniture maker, a hair-dresser, a fashion designer, a crafts-maker, a salesman, or even an electronics expert of some sort. All skill–inclined people need is to learn the skills they require or are interested in, and they’re happy doing what interests them.
The work of the talent–inclined person originates from within. Before any advanced formal education, such a person already begins to show special prowess or expertise in doing something. And out of their love for something that feels natural and easy for them, they go on to pursue that career or line of study. Talent-inclined people often go on to become dancers, writers, 👧🏿✌🏿 artists, hair-dressers, bakers, crafts-makers, comedians, musicians, actors, makeup artists (who are also artists) and many more. The main thing here is that their career choices stem out from their natural, default likings and expert abilities.
BuuUUUUt. Before you begin to claim that you are skill-inclined and not academics-inclined, or whatever, carefully examine yourself and tell yourself the truth. I believe that the academics-inclination is the hardest to pursue, but we should not run away from something and begin to make excuses against it just because it seems hard.
The joy is always in the chase… the struggles of the chase, that is.
Do I believe in God and/or religion?
Notwithstanding the stereotypes that exist in our society (when speaking from a Nigerian’s perspective), we should ask ourselves whether we truly believe in God and/or religion.
I hear many people say nowadays that they are ‘agnostic’, some others say they believe God exists, but they don’t believe in religion, others say they don’t see the need in going to church, others challenge the doctrines of whatever church or religious institution they wish, and some others, like me, stick to their religion and live by it the best they can because it gives them satisfaction.
The truth of the matter is that humans were created for supplication. A person must always feel the need to acknowledge a supreme or controlling force for certain things happening in his life. It just puts us in perspective.
Nowadays, there is more freedom for things like these, people now define their religiosity. That’s fine. Even God gave us the freedom to choose. Ask yourself whether or not you believe in God or religion and give reasons why, so that you can convince yourself, and anyone who asks you, on the reasons for your decision.
What do I see as ‘right’ and ‘wrong’?
I was discussing with my best friend two Sundays ago, and he told me that the best way to live my life is to: do what I know is right and don’t do what I know is wrong.
I still marvel at how wise that boy’s words always seem to sound to me.
Define what you believe is ‘wrong’ and ‘right’, and live accordingly. Always remember to be honest, and to try your best.
Who are the important people in my life, and how am I reciprocating their impact on me?
The heading is self-explanatory. There must be people who impact positively in your life, in whatever aspect. Make sure that their love, care and support is not one-sided. Anyone who cares for and supports you should be important in your life. Always make them see that their care and support are being acknowledged, and try your best to show them the same in return.
Remember that no man is an island. We’re all in this together. You can’t do it alone, so don’t push away the people who love, care and support you by being so self-centered. Pay attention to everyone.
Love’s repaid by love alone.
And after a ton of finger movements over my keyboard, and a million typing errors, I reserve the right to say that this post is done. I know it’s long (if you were so polite to read it all till the end), but I also know it’s not boring. (Yup. I said it.)
So be brave enough to ask and keep asking yourself these questions, and answer them truthfully. You’ll be amazed at how much more organized your life will be, how much clearer your vision will be, and how much more fulfilled you’ll feel as you take on every day.
Answer the nine questions the person who nominated you has asked.🤔
Ask nine questions for your nominees.😁
Nominate 10-15 people.😆
Something Unique About Me. 👧🏾
I have a cheerful aura. Wherever I go, people always remember me for how cheerful and happy I am, or just for my smile. 😁
Questions Selina Asked: 😘
If you could turn back time, what would you change?
I would change all my actions that hurt the people that mean most to me.
Where’s your go-to happy place?
Ummmm. That would have to be anywhere, really. Anywhere outside that’s quiet, where I can think things out; anywhere I can sit and feel the cool breeze brush against my skin.
Are you an introvert, extrovert or ambivert?
The definitions of ‘ambivert’ I find on the Internet are vague, but I have the feeling it means a combo of introvert and extrovert, and that’s definitely who I am!
What are three things you look for in a good friend?
I look out for someone I can trust with anything.
I look out for someone who can be my adviser and shoulder to cry on.
I look out for someone who is tolerant and forgiving, ‘cause I know I’m far from perfect.
What are some of your hobbies?
My hobbies are: reading, writing, listening to music, aaaaaand napping. 😴
Why did you start blogging?
I originally wanted Ọlaedo to be a kind of network where Nigerian teens could connect and share their stories and advice. But I saw that coding a social network or forum would be a hassle my coding skills were not yet matched for, so I resulted to blogging. And I hope my blog will really be able to ‘Inspire, Inform and Motivate’ teens to be better than they are. 🌷
How has the COVID-19 pandemic impacted you and your family?
In Nigeria, people only took the pandemic seriously in 2020, when the news of COVID-19 cases and deaths were all over the place. But now, life is back to normal in Naija.
But to say of the impact it’s had on my family, I would say it has made us to realise that just because we may seem comfortable and safe, there are still people in other parts of the world going through hardships and pains, and we should learn to think of and pray for them too.
It’s also taught us not to take things for granted.
What trait did you wish you had?
I wish I had the trait of trust. That is, I wish I could trust people more and easily.
Many of the reasons why I have hurt people that mean much to me stem from the fact that I don’t trust them fully, although they trust me much. And so, I always find myself trying to protect myself from hurt, but in the end hurt them by my actions.
What’s your favorite quote?
My Nominees’ Questionnaire.
Why did you start blogging?
What do you wish to have achieved with your blog by its next anniversary?
When you have a huge number of problems to solve, do you:
Sit down and make a list of them, from the most to the least important?
Do the one that seems most pressing there and then?
Grumble and do the easiest, hoping that the rest will become less stressful by the time you reeeaaallly have to do them?🙈
Do some other thing not mentioned here? (Please mention).
What was/is your worst subject while in secondary/high school?
If you could have three wishes, what would you wish for?
Who is/are that/those persons in your life you wish you could get rid of but just have to deal with. 😂
What is the sum-total vision for your life?
Study every day in preparation for exams from day-one of the term?
Begin studying whenever you did really bad in a surprise test?
Study whenever you feel like it?
Have a study state-of-emergency the night before exams?
What trait or bodily feature do you still have from when you were a child?
Maggie of Maggie’s Doodles recently took part in The Blogger Recommendations Tag. The tag was started by Nehal of Quirky Pages and is really fun, actually.
Maggie is a blogger I follow, and when I saw her post in the Reader, I knew I had to be a part of the tag. I know some really cool blogs, and I’ll be sure to give honour to whom honour is due in today’s post. But first:
About the Tag
The Blogger Recommendations Tag is essentially a way for bloggers to share some of their favorite bloggers with their readers. It helps the readers discover more blogs and also brings appreciation to the bloggers mentioned.
Share one or more bloggers you think fits into each criterion.
The people you mention will be considered tagged.
Apart from the ones you shared, you can tag other bloggers and notify them.
Just have fun!!
List of Prompts
A fascinating blog theme.
A lovely homepage.
Great book reviews.
Mind-blowing poems and stories.
The most consistent.
The best at sharing tips.
The talented artist.
Cool site name.
A fascinating blog theme.
Evin @ A Curly Sue’s Ramblings – Evin has to be tops on this list. Hers was the first WP blog I ever came across, and her blog theme is uh-mazing! (Especially as she’s changed her theme back to the last one she used!)
Maggie @ Maggie’s Doodles – I just came across her blog recently and I was awe-struck. Pink is the most predominant colour in her blog’s theme, and it really just makes sense.
Selina @ A Garden of Thoughts – I actually just found her blog this week from Maggie’s Blogger Recommendations Tag post. Her blog is so pretty that it’s earned a space on ma list!
Maggie @ Maggie’s Doodles – Maggie’s Doodles has earned another spot! Her posts are super animated and lively. But adjectives are not enough to describe such an animatedly-lively writing style.
Nehal @ Quirky Pages – Nehal’s had sooo many mentions throughout my post! And guess she’s getting a lot more mentions in the posts of all those doing the tag.
Maybe I should start a tag of my own 🤔…
Mind-blowing poems and stories.
I don’t really read stories or poems on WordPress. So, to keep things honest, I have no bloggers to mention here.
Zainab @ Zainab Chats – Y’know, it’s really humbling when a person already established in the blogosphere stoops down to look at bloggers like me who’re yet to find their footing. In my first days of blogging, Zainab was always there to like my posts and respond to my comments in such a kind way. So, she deserves her spot. 💯
IB @ It’s IB! – IB is also one of those humble, friendly bloggers. She’s always sure to flood her readers with amazing posts.
Anoushkha @ Dipped in Ink– The comment she made on my about pageis so touching. 😥 And it is the first official comment I’ve ever received on my blog. Other bloggers have commented before (when I first began blogging), but it was majorly because I enjoined them to do so. And when I checked out her blog, Dipped in Ink, I was sooo glad I did!
Safa @ One Indian Girl – Although I just met Safa some months ago, I’ve found that she’s a really amazing and relatable person. There’s nothing more moving than seeing a heart-felt reply to your comment on someone’s blog. I get that warm feeling from Safa’s replies.
The most consistent.
Okay, for the record, all – sorry – all, except for those who’ve gone inactive, the bloggers I know of are consistent and active. But I have to give this spot to:
Zainab @ Zainab Chats – There’s never a time I come to the Reader that I don’t see Zaianb’s post/s. I don’t just like her consistency, but I also like the fact that she posts multiple posts most of the time. (Now, that’s commitment.)
The best at sharing tips.
Evin @ A Curly Sue’s Ramblings – This is Evin’s third mention!🥇🥇🥇 (That’s sayin’ someth’n’, peepl). Evin’s blogging tips are frequent and substantial. I never read her ‘tips’ posts without leaving with added info. You can read her most recent ‘tips’ post here.
Zainab @ Zainab Chats – Zainab is an aspiring journalist aiming to spread positivity, and she’s really spreading positivity as she dishes out tips for information and well-being. I love her sometimes short but quality ‘tips’ posts. You can check out one my favourites here.
The talented artist.
Evin @ A Curly Sue’s Ramblings – The fact that I’ve mentioned some people multiple times doesn’t mean that I don’t know much bloggers…
… well, maybe it does.
It just means that these guys are the best at what they do, and Evin’s pics and graphics are second to none.
Evin @ A Curly Sue’s Ramblings – I guess a Curly Sue means a person with really curly hair. I’ve never seen Evin before, but I wonder how an Indian can have curly hair. In movies, Indians always have long, straight hair. But that’s by the way. Her site’s name is really great. ♥
I’m not trying to proclaim that anyone mentioned here is underrated, I just feel that more people should get to know about their blogs.
Anita @ Blog Femme & Infos – Anita’s blog is one that focuses on female well-being and information sharing. The entire blog is in French, but there’s a translator function for non-French speakers.
Mae @ OriginalTeenMuslimah – She’s Birtish teen Muslim. She basically writes like a dreamer: slow and deliberate (if that makes any sense, sha). And the most predominant colour in her blog is purple.🍇
Hidenzzz @ Hiddenzz – To write truthfully, I just think Hidenzz is a great blog that deserves a boost for more attention.👍🏾
So, without further ado, I raise my fingers from the keyboard. ✋🏾✋🏾 It was really mind-racking, finding all the bloggers to mention. I really hope you’ll take a look at these blogs here. I assure you, you won’t regret it. 👍🏾
Shout out to all the uh-mazing bloggers I mentioned here, and also to the ones that slipped my mind.😢 You’re all inspirations to me, and one of the strongest forces that keep me going. ❤❤❤
And if you want to take part in The Blogger Recommendations Tag, please do. Remember to follow the rules, have fun with it, and, please, don’t forget to mention me.
This seemed like the most appropriate blog post to write, since my school life has been trespassing into other parts of my life for the past few weeks.
Thus the reason I didn’t post for some weeks.
In a sense, apart from my encroaching academic life, you can also say that I’ve kinda gotten into my ‘get through it’ routineagain. But I’m out of it… as soon as I realised I was in it.
So, with the introductory ramblings done, I guess I should move into the post proper.
For this post I’ve drafted down two of my after school routines. I hope they’ll be of help for anyone who finds it hard to get things done and still have a bit of breathing space at the end of the day.
Like me *hehe*
So ‘ere it is:
After School Routine 1
I get back from school by, say, 4pm at most, so 4pm is the starting time. From 4pm, I give myself 2 hours to get house chores done.
First, I put water in the kettle for my siblings and I to have our after-school baths.
While the water’s on the fire, I wash plates and then clean our school shoes.
Most times, the water gets ready before I’m done with cleaning or washing, so I turn it off and then finish.
When I’m done, I go and have a bath, bathe my little sis, and then wash our school uniforms.
As I go to spread the clothes I washed outside, I start to warm the food we’re to eat. 🥧
We eat, I wash up the plates.
My siblings and I chat a little, and before I know it, it’s 5:45 or 6 already.
*I sometimes prepare our evening food, or the food we’re to take to school the next day. (Whenever I do this, I finish my chores by 7 or 7:30pm).
I set my alarm for 10pm and go to bed.
I wake up by 10pm to read, ‘cause by then, everyone is asleep, and I can read in peace. 😇 I also set another alarm for 2:30am (or sometimes 3am, if I wake up by 11pm), so I can go back to sleep in preparation (that word sounds too serious 😂) for my next wake-up-time: 4:30am.
And by 4:30am, I wake up and prepare for school.
After School Routine 2
I get back from school by 4pm.
Have my after-school bath, alongside my siblings, and wash our school uniforms.
Spread the washing outside and clean our shoes.
*As the case may be, I prepare our evening food, or food for the next morning.
As always, I chat a little with my siblings before I move on to do my homework or read.
I usually do my homework or read till, like 7:30 or 8 before I feel sleepy and need to rest. When this happens, I set my alarm for 11pm and go to sleep.
I wake up by 11pm, or sometimes 12am and begin reading or finishing up my homework. I set my back-to-sleep alarm for 3am.
By 3, I go back to sleep, to wake up for school by 4:30.
My after school routine depends on how I feel for the day. If I come back from school extremely fatigued, I know I have to eat once I come back. But the personal dislike I have for Routine 2 is that by the time I’m done eating, I’ll be full and then begin to feel lazy.😂
Routine 1 is my all-time best, and I try to follow it the best I can.
Yes, there are days when unexpected events pop up and eat deep into time frames, but at such points I just have to do the most important things and leave the rest.
So these are my after school routines. I really hope they’ve been of help to anyone who’s having a hard time making do with all the commitments of each part of their life… after school.
I’d really love to hear from you! Tell me in the comments what your after school routine looks like, and if mine helped you in any way.
Just a little note: It felt really good to write an Ideas and Info post from my own ideas alone. I haven’t written in this category in a long while because I’ve always felt that to write a post that passes across info on how to do something or on how to improve a part of your life, you need to have made ‘substantial research’ and stuff like that.
But having seen ‘how to’ and ‘tips’ blog posts from fellow bloggers written from their own ideas, it felt just right to write one of my own.
After all, 90% of the stuff we read on the Internet has already been thought of and written by someone else. In reality, one article is only more popular than the next because of:
Search engine rankings by date, relevance and SEO.
And the simple truth that the writer of the article you liked just managed to make his content more interesting than the former.
Wow. I’ve begun to see how much work and attention a blog needs. I personally love writing, but etching out time to write blog posts and publishing them at regular intervals is really a lot of work.
But dats bye da wei.
The tittle: ‘January Wrap-Up’ sounds so foreign. Being a semi-new blogger, this is my third wrap-up. My previous wrap-ups sounded like: ‘November Wrap-Up’, ‘December Wrap-Up’, and now comes ‘January’.
Jeh-nu-ah-ree (as most of us Nigerians would pronounce it.)
It’s a four-syllable word that sounds foreign as is used in the tittle – to me.
That’s just what I wanted to say – in essence.
Now that I’m done wasting your time – if you noticed.
Let’s get into my jeh-nu-ah-ree.
Y’know, only a few readers will notice that was just trying to be amusing and/or funny.
Hope it worked.😜
Well, my blogging escapades this month were very few. School just started for second term, and the rush of assignments and study deadlines kinda made me keep blogging aside for a bit. And I could only get out one post for all of January😭:
Soooo, that’s ‘bout it for this. Keep scrolling, please. 👇🏾
My Spiritual Life.
This month, God and I basically worked together. As always, there was a time my faith made a sharp plummet, but God, the more capable, stronger and wiser ‘Colleague’, raised me up and kept me going.
I did something really kinda stupid this month. It hurt someone very dear to me, and I prayed that God would touch his heart to forgive me… and God did! I’m more than thankful for what God is doing in my life, and how He’s using my relationship to make me a better person.
And quite amazingly, after the whole incident and I was forgiven, I found a verse in Proverbs 17:
That was so true in my case. It was because of love that I was forgiven. 💕
My Personal Life.
The stupid thing I did this month made me begin to ask myself questions about who I really am and what it is that I believe in.
I messed up… bad.
But the thing that happenedmade me realise the amazing people I have in my life, it made me realise that it is important to hold on to the people who look out for you, reprimand you, care for you and make you smile every day.
Before this, I was ungrateful and selfish – as I came to realise.
But it surprised me, because I try my best to be near God, so why did God still let these still be part of my personality?
Simple answer: He wanted me realise it and decide to change all on my own. And then He wanted me to ask for His help to finish the work of changing.
So, my personal life this month was one of ‘broken-heartedness’, followed by an epiphany, and now strong-willed efforts (and prayers) to redefine my person and get rid of my ungrateful and selfish sides.
Like I said in my wrap-up for last month, I’m shooting for the moon for my exams. This means reading a lot and stuff like that. Well, I’m not reading a lot.. I’m hardly even keeping up with assignments.😥
I really want to be done with secondary school and pull of my school uniform and school bag for good, but it’s a long, long way between now and the end of it.
I’m really trying to regain my footing. The best remedy for this is another definition of my priorities, and the setting of some short-term goals.
Wish me luck!🌷
So, that’s my January in three headings. I hope you liked it!
Is it just me, or did January go by so quickly?!🤔❄🌞☘🌳🌺🍀
Wow. December has come and gone, and so has 2021! 😲 The past year’s been a good one for all of us in one way or another.
Buuuuuut enough of that philosophical adult-like talk. 😜
Now I’m serving up the rundown of my December.
Before I begin, I just want to apologize for my nearly two weeks of vanishing from the blogosphere. As is a norm in my country, my family and I traveled down to our village to celebrate the festive season. And in my village (sorry to say), the network connection is awful. I really felt bad that I wasn’t blogging or even on the Internet, and I missed all my blogging friends.
But I’m back now with a boat-load of inspiration for posts this new year.
Believing that my apology has been forgiven, I continue…
This month was a good one for me, I reached the 50+ views landmark and now have 15 followers.
Not too great a number, huh? Ah well, it’s a start.
I also made some new friends on the blogosphere, and some of their posts I enjoyed reading this month are:
I’m really excited about this aspect of my life. At the beginning of this month or thereabout, I told God that I wanted to get my spiritual life back on track, and that I needed his help. Well, God didn’t let me down.
I enjoyed high levels of happiness and peace in God. I feared I wouldn’t complete my Spiritual Pillars for the new year, but with God’s help and inspiration, I did – and in record time, too. I really prayed this month, too. I made sure I always prayed my morning and night prayers, and sent short prayers to God whenever I was faced with something difficult.
There’s really nothing much to say anymore, except that I really experienced God’s joy this month😁 … and I hope you did, too
My Personal Life.
Well, there’s not really much to write here, ‘cause this month, I really focused more on building up my spiritual life. But still: This month I beefed up on my self-confidence like I said I would (Nov. monthly), with the aid of a book tittled The Power of Self-Confidence by Brian Tracy, but it was really God that helped me make sense of all I read. I also showed high levels of self-control. As I said, I travelled to my village, and in times when my cousins were being UNBEARABLE,😡 I kept my temper down and let peace reign. 😇
I also reeeeaaallly missed my classmates! Inasmuch as my cousins were there to bug me and keep me company, I still really missed my classmates. 😥 But I thank God that the holiday will be over by Monday, and I’ll be heading back to school for the last lap of my secondary school.
Yup, yup, yup. By Monday, I’ll be stepping into the last lap of secondary school.
*taking some time to stretch*
The journey’s NOT been easy – I tell ya.
But this term calls for A LOT more reading efforts. Like I said in my November Wrap-Up, I didn’t do well last term (but surprisingly came out with 1st position!). So this term, I HAVE to do my bestest-best. 👍🏾
A small digression: There’s something I was telling myself concerning my senior school exams. I prayed to God that I just want to pass them very well, well enough to get admission into my dream university (University of Lagos, in case ya wanna know ☺). I prayed this way because I knew it was a moon shot for me to pray to get the highest in WAEC in my region or even country, so to avoid the possible disappointment, I just prayed to get high enough to get admitted into UNILAG.
But then I remembered a quote by a great woman that went something like this:
This means that instead of me to aim at getting ‘just enough’ to get admitted to a Nigerian university, why don’t I aim for being the best in the whole region or even country? And even if at the end of the day, I don’t get the highest in WAEC, I will at least get a smashing score that’ll earn me prestige and recognition (no matter how small the audience is).
So my target for my senior school exams is THE MOON! 👩🏾🚀💪🏾🚀🌝🌑
And even as exams are an important issue this term, this is also the last term I have to spend with my classmates! 😢🥺 I’m really gonna miss the crazy kids I’ve shared most of my secondary school moments with.😥😢😭
And without further ado, reader, that’s the lay-down of my Deezemba (that’s how we Nigerians pronounce December). I hope it was a good read.🙃
Anything to tell me about your Christmas? Your holiday escapades or just anything ya wish to tell ol’ Vanessa? Well, drop something in the comments section… I’m waiting.